once one of my straight male friends who has a significant amount of sex asked me ‘when two girls do it how do you know when you’re finished’ and to this day thats one of the saddest things ive ever heard
It never actually ends. F-F couples have to be very careful when beginning a love-making session otherwise they can enter an eternal loop that lasts until they die.
Like… wouldn’t knowing fat people who are sexually active pretty readily disprove that theory on a personal level? Because most of the fat people I know are in relationships. Hell, a lot of fat people I know have never slept a night alone in their adult lives unless it was by choice, same as some thin people I know.
I’m in a relationship and I still get propositioned. Not because I’m an exceptional fat woman in any way, but because I’m a human being that some people find attractive and engaging for a wide variety of reasons. You know, like every other human on the planet.
Yet there’s this message hammered into people of size that they are ugly, unfuckable, unloveable, and unwanted — despite the fact that the world is filled with fat people who get laid and are in happy relationships.
Neither do I, but it’s so pervasive that despite being in a threesome for years plus one-night stands and FWBs on the side, I still struggle with feeling undesirable as a fat chick.
"While evolutionary psychology suggests that women pass on casual sex due to an inherent lack of sexual desire, Conley says there’s an entirely different reason. She posits that women say “thanks, but no thanks” for fear of being judged. She also says that women have serious reservations about whether a one-night stand would be enjoyable with a new partner. She tries to explain to men, “The reason women are turning you down for casual sex seems to be that, for one thing, a lot of you are calling them sluts afterward.” Also, “A lot of you aren’t bothering to try to be good in bed.” Preach."
Women Want Sex & That’s What’s Up - Vanessa Golembewski (via honeyedheroine)
You don’t say.
And, of course, this is without speaking to the fear of violence that may be the end result of said one-nighter
"Clint Barton strikes me as a cries-after-he-cums sort of guy. A crymax-er. Enjoy that one, Tumblr! You’re welcome!"
— Matt Fraction (Sex Criminals #4)
(Source: tardiscrash, via rubyredfeathers)
"A boy and a girl run around on the grass at the park. The boy tackles the girl. The girl laughs. She gets up and runs away. She loves to run. He chases, she turns and they grab each other, tumble and land in a pile, giggling. After a few minutes, he tackles her again and she lands a bit hard. She is bigger and physical, but he more than holds his own in roughhousing. She pauses for a second. Then she laughs again; she’s still having fun.
Dad gets his attention, and says, “If she’s not having fun, you have to stop.”
He is two. He needs to hear this now, and so does she. And again, and again, and again, so that like wearing a helmet on the bike it is ingrained."
Yes Means Yes blog: “visions of female sexual power & a world without rape”
Parents, siblings, carers, cousins, teachers, tutors, mentors, aunts, uncles, etc, of young children: we have a chance to mold the gender relations of the future.